Intro On Okcupid
We think it's best when conversations are between people who are interested in each other. However, on OkCupid (unlike other sites) you have the opportunity to send an introduction to someone before they've liked you. This means when they first see you, they'll see your full profile and your introduction at the same time, which is a great way to pique their interest.
Once you send an introductory message to someone, we won't show them to you again on OkCupid until they like you back. Now the ball is in their court! If they like you, they'll let you know by liking you back or replying to your message. When that happens, you'll see the conversation show up in your 'Conversations' page and we'll send you a. That means the Intro is no longer on OkCupid OR that you have passed on the profile that sent you the intro. Your Intros tab will show all the new Intros you've received from accounts that are still active on OkCupid and who you have not yet passed on. I am a long-time user, and I have a paid membership, and I've noticed something weird. However, on OkCupid (unlike other sites) you have the opportunity to send an introduction to someone before they've liked you. This means when they first see you, they'll see your full profile and your introduction at the same time, which is a great way to pique their interest. How to send that first introduction to someone: 1.
How to send that first introduction to someone:
1. Like them
- From Discover, drag their photo to the right or click the heart icon.
- From Questions, visit their profile, and click/tap the Like button to bring up the message button.
- If you Like each other, we'll always let both of you know for FREE right away.
2. Visit their profile and send a message
To view the profiles that you've liked, who haven't liked you back yet, you can navigate to Likes > Matches > People you like (under the mutual matches section).
Once you've liked someone, you'll see a 'message' button on their profile. Click to compose an introductory message and send! Please note: You can only send one initial message, so make it a good one!
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If the other person hasn't liked you yet, you won't see their profile (or your sent message) until they like you back. This is so you don't waste your time on people you've already reached out to.
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3. Wait for their response
Once you've messaged someone, your intro will go to their Intros tab. We'll also add you to their Discover queue, and let them know you sent an Intro! We always make sure people who have sent Intros get moved towards the front of Discover.
The person you've reached out to can visit your profile to view the Intro you sent them, along with the rest of their profile.
If they're interested in you, they can Like you back. This will move your message to the 'conversations' page for both of you, so you can write to each other any time. You'll also get a notification that they wrote to you and Liked your profile.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Do I HAVE to like someone to message them?
Yes, you do have to Like someone to send them a message. We want conversations to be only between people who are interested in each other, so you have to Like someone before messaging them.
Please note that if someone messages you, and you’re not interested in them, there is no expectation on our end that you tell people that you’re not interested. You can just pass on the profile and move on. They will not be told that you Passed on their profile. They also will not see your profile again on the site, and you won't see them, so it won't be awkward.
If you’d prefer to tell someone in a message that you're not interested, that’s fine! But you would have to work within the messaging system, which means liking someone before messaging them.
I don't see the 'Intros' feature on my account, where is it?
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We think it's best when conversations are between people who are interested in each other. However, on OkCupid (unlike other apps) you have the opportunity to send an introduction to someone before they've liked you. And messaging on OkCupid is always free!
- Once you Like a profile, you have the opportunity to send an intro
- Once you've sent the intro, they will see your full profile and your introduction at the same time, whether they're seeing you in Discover or their Intros tab. This is a great way to pique their interest and help you match on what matters.
- If they reply to you or Like you back, you'll see the reply in your Conversations page and you can write to them again if you like!